Things Were Not Meant to Get Ugly!

Wow I've been accused of being high maintenance, dim-witted and of course my favorite...actually having a penis. You guys are gangster! But I still love ya...

Anyway your impassioned feedback has sparked some interesting thoughts. It seems that people are seeing digital courtship from two different places. The first as digital foreplay: a means to an end of hanging out that ups the anticipation and can even accelerate the hooking up-age (oh no I didn't...but seriously if you've emailed back and forth at least a dozen times surely that should equal one date...I digress :). The second take seems to be more of the you've got mail variety: a phenomenon where people actually text message and e-mail as a replacement for hanging out when they can't make it happen. I prefer the first -- especially when you both live below 28th street -- but to each their own. Regardless of my preferences I think the digital courtship stops "clicking" when one person sees it as a means to an end (date) and the other is content with ongoing romanTECH interaction where their inbox is full, but bed is empty. That's my two cents anyway...

And ps: no one should feel judged or personally attacked (I swear I don't even after being likened to a hermaphrodite destined to die alone!) The posts are meant to discuss real-life issues about how all the communication we have at our disposal can ironically make it more difficult to really connect. XOXO