Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Jerk Alert: Guys Masturbate to Your Facebook Pictures

About a year ago I read an article about a website in France that featured uploaded photos of cute real girls on the streets of Paris. No photoshopping, no styling, no airbrushing, just fresh faces and natural photography. I remember smiling and thinking guys must be desentisized to the overly sexualized, perfected, Heidi Montagaloid versions of women that the media and porn industries promote.

But after last weekend I witnessed this trend take a creepy twist as two guys admitted that they acually use Facebook profiles as masturbation material. At an impromptu bar crawl with an extended group of friends one of them professed he would rather go home and "j*rk off to Facebook" then "buy some girl drinks and hope for a number at the end of the night." In disbelief that this could actually happen I texted another guy friend and he confirmed that his old roomate would say he had a "Facebook date" at least once a week. Those dates would start with him blasting music and closing his bedroom door.

As if women don't deal with enough jerks on Facebook already! Guys, don't let the "F" in Facebook confuse you.

81 comments:

  1. Jewels I wasn't going to touch this post (no pun intended), but how can I resist. Speaking as a guy who went to an all boys Catholic High School I have no shortage of masturbation stories. But I'll refrain from getting into detail for fear of turning you and other female readers of this blog off from men altogether. I don't want to wake up one day and find you on the cover of Us Weekly in a loving embrace with Danielle Staub. Couldn't live with myself if I were responsible for turning one of NYC's most eligble bachelorette's into fodder for the gossip mags. ;)

    Having said that there is a fundamental difference between men and women when it comes to "self love." Women masturbate with intent and purpose. Men masturbate... Just because. To illustrate my point, I was once dating a girl who I had incredible sexual chemistry with. She once sent me a detailed email describing how she had done the deed the night before while fantasizing about the two of us being together. She did it to get me riled up before a long weekend getaway. Men are no where near as deliberate. Masturbation is almost incidental for men, its not a ritual. Now I know most women will ask, "what about porn? Its readily available on the net!" This is true. And every guy at one time or another has laid on his bed with his pants down around his ankles trying not to singe his leg hair off from an overheated laptop while he scrolls through an endless parade of porn sites and hopes that his internet connection doesn't crap out. But fantasizing about friends, or friends of friends, or friends of girlfriends, or sisters of girlfriends, or even moms of girlfriends (the term MILF was created for a reason afterall) brings with it a certain intimacy that's lacking from basic generic porn. Sometimes its just more fun to imagine a tryst with someone who you know, or could at least meet at some point. Now I am not endorsing turning Facebook into your personal spank bank or maturbation roladex, especially since I know girls aren't intentionally trying to lure elicit behavior out of the guy who sits in the cubicle adjacent to theirs when they post pics from their "girls weekend in Vegas," but there isn't much of a distinction between that and wearing a short skirt or low cut top that inadvertently gets all your male co-workers worked up. Both instances are unintentional, but both appeal to that sexual deviant that's inherent in all men. No woman wants to be viewed as just a sexual object, but I say better to be desired by accident then not at all.

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  2. Anonymous you are a voice of reason. But as a woman there is something very violating about guys using your pics as material against your knowledge. It's like they are digital peeping toms. Once when I was in Highschool we were on a field trip to Great Adventure and we looked out the window and a guy had his pants down in his car going to town as he looked at our bus. These Facebook jerk-offs give me the same creepy feeling. They need to have some dignity and troll Maxim's hometown hotties if they want girl next door types.

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  3. I can't believe I am having this debate. I don't know what's worse, whacking off to Facebook, or publicly defending the practice of whacking off to Facebook. Mark Zuckerberg would be proud I am sure. Sorry to hear about your traumatic "Great Adventure" incident Jewels, but is it really fair to compare Lester the Molester to some guy having a tug in the seclusion of his own apartment? I know that typically women have a mental component when it comes to sexual arousal, but unfortunately men aren't as complicated. Visual stimulation alone is usually enough to induce a physical desire. By your rationale Jewels any guy that's ever seen a pretty girl on the street or at a bar and made a mental note so that he could go home and fantasize about her later on is a perv. I am guessing that you have plenty of girl and guy friends. Well chances are that some of your guy friends have fantasized about getting down and dirty with some of your girlfriends. Are they any less of a pervert? Is the medium from which the visual is derived all that consequential? some women stalk guys online. That to me is more creepy. At least jerking off is superficial and quick (depending on the guy). Stalking someone takes time and devotion.

    Funny enough Jewels I know the 2006 Maxim Home Town Hotties winner. Kerry. Sweet girl. Ironically she hardly has any pictures of herself on Facebook.

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  4. Maybe this is what Mark Zuckerberg meant when he created the poking function!

    I guess my point is that there is something intensely creepy and sort of desperate about guys masturbating to Fbook specifically, because in general I don't think women put pics up there knowing this is going to happen. It feels like the guys doing it are violating the rules of engagement on the site.

    Now once an image enters a guys "bank" I suppose he is in control of where his fantasy goes -- kind of like Inception :)

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  5. Reason #425 DO NOT UPLOAD PICTURES OF YOURSELF UNLESS IT's YOUR WEBSITE or Blog.

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  6. if your a woman, and your picture is on the internet..expect that it will be used for masturbation, end of story. Why would girls make there profile pics of them in bikinis? I think your not giving your gender enough credit. Women know what they are doing...

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  7. Thanks anonymous. But I am not sure I entirely agree. Sure it feels good to look good, but in general, women don't make bikni pics their profile to serve as masturbation material. Sometimes, its just a cute or funny pic that may capture an experience or moment that she is proud of or wants to remember. Maybe she puts them up to torture ex boyfriends or show off the results of countless pilates classes and low carb dieting. Whatever it is, it is her choice. If guys want to be pathetic and j*rk off to these I guess no one can stop them (except maybe their conscience). I don't think women should stop putting up pics they love for fear of what someone might do to them...its an oppressive and slippery slope. Pun NOT intended this time :)

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  8. Note to every girl who posts a picture of themselves on the net where they look really attractive: Some guy that you know will eventually j-off to it. It is a matter of when, not if. Just the facts. I guess that makes all guys pervs. So be it.

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  9. I think the vast majority of women who are physically attractive to men very much enjoy the fact that they are attractive--and they enjoy the attention as long as it is expressed tastefully. That's why many (not all) attractive women post sexy photos of themselves on Facebook.

    Whether a man then pleasures himself using those photos, it seems to me, is no one's business but his own. No one else needs to know--and, usually, no one else wants to know.

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  10. I'm guilty of this pleasure. In fact, i take it a step further. I take their pics, save them to my desktop, then photo shop their faces onto xxx pics. I highly recommend this, it's truly a good time. One time, my roommate caught me jerking off to a modified pic of his girlfriend. He got mad but i punched him really hard in the stomach and scared him with words, and he never brought it up again. I make him take pics of his girlfriend when they're swimming or at the beach, he then makes a cd with the pics on it for me. This one time his girlfriend caught me sniffing her butthole when she was sleeping. I yelled "you're dreaming!!!!" as loud as i could at her, and she went back to sleep. My roomie and I have an interesting relationship, but i like his girl ;)

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  11. Ok, I am kind of calling your bullshit on parts of this story, but it is nonetheless, f*ckin hilarious!

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  12. Seriously though, nearly EVERY GUY does this. Masturbating to pictures of girls we know is the PRIMARY (but not only) reason any guy gets a facebook page in the first place. That's the reason Myspace became popular a few years back and that's why it no longer is. Once girls stopped posting new pictures on myspace most guys quit using theirs.

    The bottom line is that while you may find it hard to believe, or creepy, or disturbing, you really can't take it as such. It's an everyday occurrence for the vast majority of guys. That's just how it is.

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  13. Recently stumbled this. For the author to suggest masturbating to FB pics is creepy and desperate shows she doesn't yet know how males works. A woman in a bikini is a woman in a bikini; model or FB friend. As Anonymous has point out, there's an added pull to using FB friends' pictures because they're more "attainable" than some random model (0.01% is still more than 0%!)

    Bottom line: if you want to publicly show off how attractive you've become doing pilates, don't act so naively disgusted and offended when men respond to your attractiveness. That's. How. It. Works.

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  14. Anonymous thanks for stumbling over. I will say that guys masturbating to girls on Fbook wasn't the biggest shocker to me. What I found most creepy is them masturbating to seemingly innocent pictures of girls doing average things like hanging out with their friends and family. If someonone puts body shots on the internet, they shold assume there is some risk involved, but if you upload normal photos and they are used as a catalyst for guys to yank it, I do think that falls on the desperate side.

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  15. But what's the "risk" Jewels?

    I'm currently masturbating to your profile picture...kidding. :-)

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  16. I'm inclined to think that when an action causes no harm to other people, it is an acceptable action. I'd personally be rather flattered if people masturbated to my FB pics (gay male here btw); but even for those people who think it's creepy or who don't want others jerking off to their pics, consider the fact that you will likely never find out about such deeds even if they do occur. Masturbation is a victimless crime :)

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  17. Anonymous 2 here.. . . Let me see if I have this: You want to post your pictures and then tell people what they can do in private with your publicly posted pictures and comments? Digital peeping tom? How about digital tease?

    Look, I'm not trying to be rude or crude, and you raised this question for public discussion. So here is the truth from only one man's perspective: You are very pretty and a bit sassy. Your willingness to speak out on this topic in this way would not have been tolerated (by women or men) a few years ago. As merely one male in the world (against whom all others will no doubt rail in holy horror) your very "presence" on this topic is only one of many representations of the end of the world I grew up in (i.e., male dominated). I can read your profile, simply glance at your picture, or even see you on the street or in the office where you and I might work together, or where I might even work FOR you (we don't, it is an illustration), and go home and masturbate to you. . . . and it not be a violation of you in any way. For me (and others who will never say so, because they are cowards), masturbating to you and other women is actually a form of surrender to what I believe is the most significant social shift in the history of humanity: the rise of women to prominence. Laugh, scoff, ridicule all you like, but do some significant research. Both women and men have faults; both have strengths; but women more and more hold the lea. . . I mean reigns. Most men are in the dark about this and don't get it. But there is a growing trend: the stronger women get, the more men masturbate. (What else can they do?) It is one of many signs of male surrender -- whether they intend it that way or not. (Naturally, not all masturbation is surrender; that's not the point). Most men will vehemently deny what I'm saying here. Doesn't matter. A tipping point is coming in which men will find themselves significantly out-played . . . by the girls. And they increasingly are taking this role-shift (from culturally recognized "primary" to their new position as "second" sex) as a "defeat" in sexual terms. A "masturbation of surrender" is not a violence, but one way of recognizing that.

    If anyone forces another in such a matter, that is not cool. But with all of your new-found freedom, presence, and social power -- even right here on this blog--- you are affecting men's view of the world and of themselves in ways you do not realize. (Not all men are the same, I'm talking about cultural shifts).

    So for what it is worth to you, kudos on what you are doing.

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  18. I'm starting to masturbate to girls facebook profiles. I feel like porn has desensitized me to certain things, so I feel like masturbating to girls facebook makes me appreciate the natural beauty of women more. I jerk off to average girls doing average things not some photoshopped porn whores taking 12 dicks up their ass. It's just a lot more classy to masturbate to facebook pics.

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  19. I recently opened my boyfriends temporary Internet files and found that he masturbates to my circle of friends and family. not only that his normal porn routine. as a female, I masturbate. I think I have a little bit of a male mentality. while I do understand people get bored with the same old yank sites, I find it horrifying to see that Facebook has become an alternative or choice. I hate that I caught my boyfriend (and not only by searching his computer I literally caught him) and confronted him. But what I hate the most is that he still does it from time to time. He even uses his tv. for example, one of the Spanish channels in the morning have girls in bikinis dancing everywhere. he actually zooms in and slows down everything. all the while I'm sleeping right next to him. now I notice I'm making my boyfriend sound like a sex fiend, but he is the epitome of how guys are when it comes to masturbating. do I like it? obviously not. do I join in when I catch him? sometimes yes. but most of the time we fight about it. still trying to figure out how to sort this problem out. as far as I know, I just have to accept it until he really crosses the line.

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  20. honestly, the older a man gets, the less porn turns you on. At 21 years old, since masturbating to the same porn stars since 13 it gets repetitive. Talking to some other friends it seems that with time, you need something more real. especially after actually having sex, you need that connection with the girl that porn does not offer. by using Facebook or your imagination you can make any encounter with a girl come to life. Honestly, I masturbate to girls that consider me a "BFFAE" or that i see around a lot and have never even talked to. Something women have to come to accordance with is that if you are even remotely attractive, a guy has masturbated to you. Women find it creepy because you don't understand men. We really mean no harm, it's just a part of how we are.

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  21. I had lost most of my hair and gained all of my measly 169 inches of height by age 17 and am now a 29 year old virgin.

    Masturbating to innocent pics of acquaintances on SNS sites before and after they reject me is one of the few pleasures I have in life. Don't post it if you don't want it to be fapped to.

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  22. ^er, centimeters

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  23. This is definitely creepy to think about.

    BUT, after thinking about it for a minute in a way its kind of comforting, it means that not all guys prefer to look at women who have been hopelessly airbrushed or look like porn stars...some guys actually dig girls who LOOK LIKE NORMAL GIRLS. This kind of makes me smile.

    But yes, still totally creepy to think about my friends doing this.

    PS. I love your blog, I'll definitely be back! xox

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  24. I don't really see the problem. I do it more often than regular pornography these days. Years of desensitization to the over glossy, fake pornography made me want to change. There is something so much more tangible about masturbating to people you know and see often, even if you wouldn't necessarily go after them in real life. Honestly, with the amount of revealing/suggestive pictures a lot of women put up on facebook it's surprising to me that women don't know. It would even be surprising if a lot of them didn't intend for it to be used as such. I don't really see who the victim is here, unless the people masturbating to you contact you and tell you about it when you don't want them to. I don't mean to sound harsh, as I'm really quite a decent person, but men need to masturbate, it's just that simple, and I am no longer really comfortable getting off over people I have no personal connection with, and having sex isn't always possible 24/7.

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  25. I am guilty of doing this myself sometimes. I am a 20 year old male who attends college with a high GPA who has been in a healthy relationship, not some washout creep with no chance of ever meeting real women. At first I used to be ashamed that I would get aroused by my attractive female friends' pictures, knowing that they would be disgusted if they knew I did it, but I realized that it's no different than the fantasies I have of them when I normally masturbate without Facebook (or any outside pornographic stimulus, for that matter). For men, pornography is merely an aid in a fantasy created by the mind, and men differ in what they fantasize about. Many males prefer to fantasize about the huge fake pornstar sized breasts that are impossible in real life without surgery, but not me. I personally think that my attractions are healthier because I'm attracted to normal women, instead of cultivating unrealistic expectations thta are damaging to my sexuality and to the female gender in general. The fantasy of self-pleasure that is masturbation is stronger for me if its more realistic, i.e. if it involves girls I actually know in real life. That's why I use facebook pictures. Now those guys that leave lewd questions on girls' Formspring pages are a whole 'nother bunch, and I'm not touching that.

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  26. It's the next stage of masturbation. Those we can't have sex with, we can't mastrubate in front of their faces either. Facebook allows us to do it though, holiday pics and halloween pics are a good source.

    I'm going to be generous and, to add on to your realisation that guys masturbate to Facebook, I will drop another bombshell that all/most guys know but girls have yet to realise:

    Feet are the new tits.

    Think about it and it makes sense - girls are constantly getting their tits out, and we've seen them all. Feet are usually hidden, neck and shoulders have a similar effect too (though not as much) for the same reason.

    YouTube provides good proof of this tits-to-feet development in society...

    Seriously, in the summertime girls all effectively have their tits out. Those in flip flops anyway.

    Shouldn't have said that, it's our unmentioned secret, but I just want to know your reaction. XD

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  27. All I can say is that if feet are the new tits I better work on my toe cleavage. That's actually a real term for when the line between your toes peeks out of your shoes!

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  28. Man have I got a story for you all, and I need some advice. Last week,I was home alone, I touched my weiner while looking at pics of my friend's girl on facebook. I got so worked up that I decided to text the girl, "hey, you wanna make fuckie on me?" She texted back, "Josh,you know that I only make fuckie on Johnny". She's 25, i'm 54, so there's a bit of an age difference. I then texted her, "but i have the wrinkly balls and smelly dick", that got her worked up, she texted back, "is your entire scrotum wrinkly, or just one side?". I got so scared that I didn't text back. What do you guys think I should do? Should I send her a pic of my wrinkly scrotum?

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  29. Troll^. Or, a very creepy person. If your situation is real, don't do it... People who send others photos of themselves can never get them back, and they live to haunt you.. (Anthony Weiner anyone?). Many find that their photos made it on the web. Plus, what if her boyfriend sees it? That'd be terrible for their relationship.
    Either way, this doesn't belong on this thread... therefore I get a sinking suspicion you are just messing with people for laughs. Go somewhere else, there isn't even that much traffick here...

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  30. Also, I'd just like to point out that guys have probably masturbated to your profile pic here as well... just sayin

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  31. Any women that disagree with masturbating to book photos are probably uncomformatable with their bodies. I think it's a sense of hey I know that girl I'd fuck her.

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  32. This is a very interesting subject. I find it either disingenuous or just naive for women to find this practice distasteful. Human sexuality is human sexuality, and as long as no one is imposing their sexual will on another person, there is absolutely no right or wrong way to express it.

    I would echo what someone above said, that for many men masturbation is social networking's main function. The habit of using sites like Facebook this way can be unhealthy if it becomes overly impulsive, or compulsive, in nature. But that is no one's problem but their own unless, once again, they are driven to interact with their masturbatory subjects inappropriately which seems almost as widespread, especially where single men are involved.

    The internet in general affords its users a sense of security as a result of its impersonal nature, this feeling is to many people more effective at reducing inhibitions than drugs or alcohol. So there is the issue of "situational sexual behavior", people are opportunistic. The name of the game is to do the most to satisfy the self and minimizing any fall out, how much weight is given to either side depends on the person. But the internet, the anonymity of it, encourages people to do things they would never do otherwise (I bet many people have stolen the new Britney album online who would never even consider doing the same at Wal Mart).

    That being said, I find it unfortunate the way many people act on Facebook, men and women alike. I may enjoy the visuals privately, but I stop far short of posting lewd comments to their pictures about their secondary sexual characteristics for all to see. I have found success where I wanted success by not being a buffoon, and women seem generally receptive to a more subtle approach. But... it all depends on the quality of female I suppose. There definitely are those that encourage it.

    But most importantly, men are hardwired to want sex with a variety of partners. The other essential ingredient in this is that the primitive brain isn't so great at what is obvious to the higher brain, Jenna Jameson on the monitor is not likely a viable reproductive mate. To the alligator brain Jenna is another opportunity to extend ourselves into forthcoming generations (and men get tired of the same ol' videos and pics as well). So, of course, pictures of attractive females with who the prospects of an actual chance to mate is not so far fetched by the higher brain... well, this is why "innocent pics" of the girl next door often have a far greater impact than Jenna Jameson spread eagled and taking it... because Jenna's not next door.

    The pics seem innocent and the ones you speak of probably are. It's not all about the breasts you know. A clean face that is both symmetrical and in some aspects infant-like (don't invoke pedophilia, it's not like that) can be just as rich material for masturbation as the most provocative photos. It's all about quality genetic material, the more feasibly attainable the better.

    Men can be disgusting, but as I am one I understand it can be hard. The theory has been posited that our brains were simply not made for the environments we live in today, until fairly recently in our evolutionary history we lived in small groups where even one very attractive female specimen was not necessarily accessible. Now we live in cities of millions of people, attractive people all around. Sometimes I get whiplash, it's hard being a young man sometimes.

    So keep that in mind when you think a man is a creep by default for jerking off to Facebook. Imagine being a man of the biology described above with access to pictures of and lines of communication with dozens, sometimes hundreds or even thousands, of beautiful females--all those potential mothers just a click away.

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  33. jewels it looks like your not wearing a shirt, BOOM aroused guys are weird, girls sud like it

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  34. Nothing I can say hasn't been said before, but Jewels, I will try to ease your pain by informing you that though guilty of this deed, it's only if the girl is scantily clad/in a compromising pose. When the girl is going about her business in her photos, I can't imagine any sexual attraction to it.

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  35. i have been masturbate to all my female mates on Facebook for 2 yrs now; to my surprise three of them fell in love with me. I have fucked two of them just one left. I believe it might send some signals when your jerking off to certain girls and she feel aroused when see you in real life. "it is subliminal magic love making"

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  36. I'm going to add another comment to the chorus of guys that do this, and who aren't total creeps in real life (though, lets be honest, we're all just a little creepy).

    I honestly much prefer fantasizing about girls I know than fantasizing about porn stars. Plenty of guys think this way. After all, do you think that the cute cheerleader in high school didn't have any guys masturbating while thinking about her? Whether or not there's pictures of her to help them out is fairly irrelevant, in terms of how creepy it is. Though, for fun, it would be fun to tell a pretty girl that most of the guys in her school masturbate while thinking about her (facebook or no), just to see her reaction.

    Now, to undermine my initial point that I'm not a total creeper, here's what we do: Obviously, we go to the albums page, and start looking for various album titles that look relevant (assuming she has more than 1 or 2 albums). Good targets are: Summer, Beach, Vacation, Prom, Spring Break, 21st Birthday (almost any birthday will do) etc. Also, profile pictures are usually fertile ground; most girls do the work for us of weeding through the bad pictures.

    I'm sure you're not happy to know this, but, oh well. Anyway, I figure its better for guys to be fantasizing about girls they know than porn stars. Seems healthier to me to lust after a girl that we can actually reach, rather than an unattainable one. Might motivate us (not the masturbation itself, but the desire) to actually get off our ass and ask her out.

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  37. I love jacking off to hotties I know on Facebook.

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  38. Hi there Jewels,

    You have started a very important conversation. I'm yet another guy who indulges in this practice, but I hope I can bring something new to the discussion.

    It's tempting to argue that Facebook is simply the latest variation in a long tradition of people accessing photos of people they know in order to help them get off. When I was in high school, I remember eagerly awaiting the "year book" we'd receive at the end of each year, because I'd finally be able to indulge in my existing fantasies with a picture in front of me to remind me exactly why I was so taken by whoever it was.

    However, it would seem that Facebook produces a significantly different situation. Now I'm no longer confined to a once-a-year publication, in which there are pictures of only a select bunch of the people in my life. Now I can access the photos of anyone who chooses to befriend me on Facebook (and in some cases, even those of people who have not befriended me). And the photos just keep on coming. It is not a matter of head shots and a few posed photographs taken around the school yard, but rather all manner of photographic styles and subjects. Sometimes whole years of a person's life are effectively archived in multiple photo albums: countless nights out, celebrations, narcissistic self portraits - the list goes on. Surely a fundamental shift has occurred in the way that we experience other people, including sexually.

    My point is that while all this getting off to Facebook is to some extent a continuation of a long trend, it has also taken the trend in a significantly new direction. And that direction may be problematic.

    As for the creepy factor, it seems to revolve around two issues:

    1. People fantasise about people they know.

    2. People fantasise about situations that seem to have nothing to do with sex.

    If these things are creepy, then I’m one creepy guy. These two things pretty much define my sexuality. I get the feeling, though, that I’m not particularly unusual in that way.

    Thanks for starting this discussion Jewels!

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  39. I like your pic jewels...

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  40. Guys, thanks for the continued comments and conversations!

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  41. guilty as charged. However, I do like to take things a step beyond, i.e. by using photoshop to reveal certain characteristics of the female body you wouldn't be able to see elsewise. *wink*.
    It's something called "X-raying". There are actually thousands of tutorials on this all over the net. Like this one: http://www.metacafe.com/watch/1695174/x_ray_effect_tutorial/ (NSFW!)

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  42. Wow. holy shit, just wow. what a fascinating series of comments.
    I'm thinking I shouldn't feel guilty, as I have forever, masturbating over that hottie who had a crush on me.
    And yet....
    I'm torn. I am sure that the best life, the sexuality aspect of it, has to be *denying* masturbation--not completely, perhaps--but it has to be having the balls and tenacity to master what some people call Game, the practitioners of which are called PUA's (pick up artists).
    I've noticed it's becoming more and more mainstream to acknowledge the value of Game/PUA, at least on the part of the Internet I frequent. For example, on the website lesswrong.com, which is devoted to increasing rationality--not the sort of place that you might think it'd crop up at!

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  43. If women or girls as you call them don't want guys jerking off to their photos they shouldnt post sexy, revealing or otherwise arousing pics on facebook or anywhere else.Get a clue human beings are still animals;research has been done that shows arousal occurs in both sexes who view such pics , movies whatever. As a women who dresses provocatively or otherwise doensn't get to pick and choose who gets to whack off to her.We're guys, we're animals responding to inant naturally occuring responses caused by mother nature.And I'm tired of listening to unattractive fat women whining about women nbeing objectified. 5% of the human pop. is truly gorgeous and 5% is truly ugly.Thats means 90% of humans are acceptably attractive.You should hope to fall in the 90%.And yes i would go home and jerk off to facebook rather than wake up to fat ugly skank from the bar scene.If those pictures get posted they're posted for a reason.

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  44. Might as well put in my 2 cents here, although likely everything I say has already been said.

    I think our culture has a generally negative attitude to masturbation as if there's something wrong with it. People also tend to forget the the Internet itself owes a lot of its rapid development to pornographic material in the broadest sense of the word. So it's not surprising it would continue to be used in the same manner.

    Billy Crystal said "Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place." Well it's kinda the same deal with masturbation, all it really takes for a guy to masturbate is a visual stimulus, be it porn, vacation pictures of the school hottie in a bikini or even just remembering the cleavage he saw when the cute waitress at the local bar bent over to wipe down his table. It may sound creepy, but it's how it is.

    If you are that bothered about it, remember that YOU set the privacy of your own pictures. So if you are worried that some guy will use your vacation pictures for his spank bank, then limit the availability of those pictures. Hell, I do it all the time for drunken pictures I don't want my family to see. But if you leave the pictures open for all your friends or even everyone on Facebook, then they are fair game. And you can be sure some guy out there is waxing his carrot to them.

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  45. i think it's wrong for girls to define guys as creepers for reasons other than the guy saying or doing something creepy to them. if he's jerking his junk privately, let him be! Don't shatter his self-esteem by calling him creepy. I once heard a stuck-up hot girl saying that anyone who masturbates is desperate. I then went home and furiously masturbated to my fantasies of her

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  46. Jewels, Back in High school (before Facebook) I jerked off thinking about every girl I was attracted to in my class. No facebook - just a mental image of them. So facebook puts a picture in front of your eyes, not just in the brain.

    What's the difference?

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  47. This has been amazing to find! I JUST found out my boyfriend does this and he tells me that he feels ashamed when he does it but has been doing it since myspace and way before our relationship. I realize it has nothing to do with me but it does still make me uncomfortable because since then it seems i cannot look at facebook the same. IT was just something I had never even considered. However, I do have one question for guys doing this. HE seems to do it to ugly girls, pretty girls, it doesnt matter but the majority are "ugly girls". What does this add to the experience? Why choose girls that are "ugly" according to society?

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    1. It depends how you define ugly. Is an ugly girl to you anyone who isn't slim, full of make-up, blonde and pouty lips? To be fair, in my experience, females are a terrible judge of other females' attractiveness.

      Unless we're talking hairy, unhygenic obese women, the 'ugly' girls he finds good to fap to will be DIFFERENT rather than ugly. It's hard to explain without knowing what you find ugly and what type of girl he's masturbating. He might just like butterfaces, he might like evil-looking girls, he might have a fatty fetish.

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  48. Hahahahaha! I LOVE this blog! Especially the comments. B) :P

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  49. How is masturbating to someone's facebook profile "violating"? They're images that people VOLUNTARILY post online for everyone to see! If you don't want them to do it, don't post them.

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  50. K, I get it guys need to masturbate, whatever. Porn, concerned me because according to statistics it eventually handicaps some men to the real thing, bad news for us chicks who want our partners. So what you said about choosing 'the girl next door' over porn stars shed some positive light on my perspective. But on the other hand, does that not mess with your mind, mixing reality with fantasy, especially when in a relationship. Not judging truly trying to get men. What if my bf not only best friends with his ex f*ck buddy but also his most frequent fb choice? do I believe him when he says he is over her and loves me?

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  51. this site ranks pretty high googling the words "picture worth masturbating".

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  52. WTF SHUT THE FUCK UP

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  53. I'm Straight and if a gay guy masturbated to my Facebook pictures i wouldn't mind... just saying

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  54. I googled "best photos to wank to" and I ended up here. Guess I better load up facebook and get to work since its so highly praised!

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  55. FranciscoFuckinGuzmanMarch 21, 2012 at 2:00 PM

    I came across this article because I was curious to see if I was the only one who spanked to girls on FB.. And I'm glad to see I'm not alone. The answer to girls questions: I do it because I'm tired of fake women. I like the natural girls, thin or average, there is beauty in every single girl and I had realized that a year ago. And now if I ever want to look at porn, I have realized the only videos I watch are not the ones with porn stars.. But the ones with natural girls you would see everyday. This makes my fantasy realistic too, I don't want a fantasy that will never happen, but a fantasy that could happen if I got laid on Friday night. Also, fantasizing to a girl I have a chance with makes it a million times more rewarding when you get laid with that girl, and it's like your dream came true.. Lol And when girls don't wear make up, those are the best pictures to jack off too... Don't take it the wrong way girls, it's just our nature as a guy. Now I'm gonna go jack off to my friend's picture see ya!

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  56. Did someone just seriously compare this to a peeping tom? That is an insult to women who have actually been violated in such a way. An internet peeoping tom would be a hacker who violates your privacy and sees things he wasn't suppose to. Facebook pictures are public. Or available to someone's friends list. Where is the "peeping"? Unless you are somehow looking at pics set to private on a girl who isn't on your friends list. Then I can see where the peeping comes in.

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  57. What someone does in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business! If someone wants to jerk off to PUBLIC photos in their private bedrooms, that is their business.

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  58. "Anonymous thanks for stumbling over. I will say that guys masturbating to girls on Fbook wasn't the biggest shocker to me. What I found most creepy is them masturbating to seemingly innocent pictures of girls doing average things like hanging out with their friends and family. If someonone puts body shots on the internet, they shold assume there is some risk involved, but if you upload normal photos and they are used as a catalyst for guys to yank it, I do think that falls on the desperate side."

    Why the hell does this matter to you? It's his body and his bedroom. Not yours.

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  59. Is it possible for a man to view women as just another person?? Are they even capable of speaking to an average woman (human) without imagining their dick in/between the woman's mouth, ass, tits, ears...armpits..?? I don't know, whatever it is men get off to now-a-days in the "oh-so-sacred-but-clearly-not-sacred-enough-because-i-know entirely-too-much-about-it-already, privacy of their own home." I guess that question was rhetorical, because deep down I already know the answer: the answer is no. They cannot. They are not capable. Call it nature or nurture, accuse the woman of being naive, tell her to stop posting photos, whatever. Just don't feel so hurt when a woman rejects you after you've approached her "innocently" in either the real or cyber world, since you've only made the effort on the grounds that you wish to plow her with your imagination and/or more. Her rejecting you coldly is done on the grounds that she DOESN'T want you touching her. Seem fair? I know it's hard for many men to understand that just because a woman is attractive--or better yet just because she is a WOMAN, doesn't mean she wants YOUR dick.

    When it comes to jerking yourself to any woman in private, by all means, knock yourself out! Just remember, WE don't owe YOU anything! Your "imagination" shows allover your face when you talk to us, and makes you no better or more deserving than that "bitch" that just told you to fuck off. There's a perspective I bet none of you knew existed! An honest woman's!!

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    1. For fuck's sake, not all men are perverts.

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  60. My girlfriend found pictures of her friends on my computer that I'd gotten from Facebook, I had to admit to her what I'd been doing with them (after this thread that should be pretty obvious). She was so upset with me, I feel absolutely awful about it. Because the relationships pretty new I havent met her friends yet and obviously she doesnt want me too now. I hate myself for doing it and have deleted all the photos as well as her friends from my FB account. She doesnt know if she wants to carry on our relationship and I think we're cancelling the holiday we'd booked. Is there anything I can do to make her feel better about things? I've apologised many many times, sat back and taken it when she's shouting at me. She doesnt even like me holding her hand or hugging her anymore yet she hasn't ended things. I don't know what to do.

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    1. Hey, she's upset for two reasons. She wants to know that she can trust you; her knowing you jerk off to he friends makes her think she can't trust you. Reason two, and more importantly, you made her feel less attractive than her friends. Girls will be girls, and friends or not, they compete with each other for attention. Be honest and explain to her that you were just being a horny bastard - what guy doesn't fantasize about his woman's friends? If she can't accept your apology then it's time to move on. If the relationship does continue do know that she will be keeping an extra eye on you from now on for quite a while.

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  61. As a female who masturbates to pics of her male friends, I can't say I'm surprised. I work as a personal trainer at a gym and am very fit. I could probably get any of those guys in bed, but in real life I'm not looking for hookups. I'm no creep.... I'm just in between relationships.
    Guys post pictures of themselves shirtless and I also have a body hair fetish. It works well.

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  62. Yay I'm normal! :D

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  64. I just masturbated to your blogger profile.

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  65. Honestly? I'm a 21-year-old guy, and I masturbate to Facebook. Fairly regularly. And before that, MySpace.
    I completely understand why you think it's creepy, and I too felt weird about it at first. But, I've come to honestly believe that it's probably one of the healthiest forms of fantasy/masturbation there is right now. I doubt I'll convince you, but let me share with you a few reasons why I think this, and maybe--just maybe--you'll at least understand where guys like me are coming from

    1.) Porn honestly grosses me out. Have I spanked it to porn? Sure. But for the most part, I try to find the blandest porn out there. Why don't I like porn? -There's a lot of creepy shit out there. Like, a lot. -The girls in porn (well, most of them) are fake-looking and disgusting. Overly-tanned, huge breasts, big lips, all of them look like they're syphillis-based organisms. I don't find that attractive. -Frankly, I find porn degrading (to women, that is). Women are treated like fuck-objects, and they're encouraged to say all sorts of ridiculous shit that feeds into guys' fantasies ("ooh yeah! your dick is so big! fuck me harder!" etc). Not to mention all the jizzing in girls' faces and two-dudes-banging-a-chick and all sorts of stuff. I find it uncomfortable to watch. I love masturbating to hot girls, don't get me wrong. But I don't want to see them degraded or treated like meat. Same reason I don't like beauty pageants.
    2.) Masturbating to girls you know seems more...plausible. I'm reminded of an old bit George Carlin used to do, and as is the case with most things, he says it better than I (or most others) can: "Lotta guys thought about movie stars...and a lotta guys thought about girls in the neighborhood. I always did because they seemed more possible, y'know? "Hey, this can happen!" Brings you up a few, doesn't it?"
    I think Olivia Wilde is really hot (and I've wanked to her too), but in the end, I know there's no chance of ever hooking up with her. Even moreso for all the other Hollywood actresses (Wilde is the one I enjoy most, probably). It's a lot easier to imagine myself having sex with my friend Ashley than it is with a super-hot, super-wealthy, super-powerful movie or pop star whom I'll likely never meet, let alone fuck.
    3.) I like normal looking girls. So many pop stars and movie stars are TOO 'perfect" looking; the look fake. I like REAL girls with REAL hips and REAL breasts, who look like actual human beings and not blow-up dolls. And I know PLENTY of "normal" girls who are fucking hot, too. Just not in a fake way.
    4.) A lot of girls post pictures on Facebook that are really, really hot. So many girls I know have posted pictures in bikinis--sometimes they're soaking wet, other times they're in such a position that we're afforded a good shot of their breasts. SOme take pics in their bra or underwear, others just wear tight, revealing outfits. Seeing stuff like this on Facebook (from attractive girls I KNOW, making it all the more possible/alluring) is tough to turn down, and makes for great spank material.
    5.) Lastly, I think any creepiness comes from how the guy handles it. I've never come on too strongly to a girl or disrespected her (if anything, I come on *too weak*). Masturbating to her on Facebook, in the privacy of my own home and with no one knowing, seems healthy and normal to me. If I were to tell her (or others) about this unsolicited, that's creepy. If I were to stalk her or begin coming on too strong, that's creepy. Private masturbation? Nah.

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  66. In conclusion, I think it's a pretty healthy thing to do, and something I hope one can see as a compliment; to me, a guy getting a boner for you is one piece of praise he can't fake, and if he finds you so attractive that he actually pleases himself to you (and keeps it private), I guess that's kinda cool, isn't it?

    Tell me what you think! I'd love to hear my thoughts. What do you have to say in response?

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  67. Guys, I am an anonymous girl.. and if I find a photo of a really hot guy i will masturbate to it. I admit since i would never ever say that to anyone i knw, but since no one will know my identity.. I used to have a gay male friend that was really cute and posted really hot pictures of himself and I admit i was once masturbating and just found myself masturbating to his pictures and it was one of my best.. Girls do get bored of that random porn shit where the girl is like being raped.. besides, its better to masturbate to atleast the guys that it is possibly u can touch them one day.. I do masturbate to my bf's photos.. sigh. When will girls just stop pretending.. its just sick.. Maybe guys u should start pretending too.. don't u think that jacobs topless photo has been that popular for no reason.. thats a non continuous masturbating photo for us girls.. dn't u think if i had a random friend that well at least has the same body i wouldn't masturbate to it.. i would masturbate to it even more..

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  68. It just seems like a crude and defaming thing to do to someone..I also understand that it is perfectly normal for at least some people...I can also understand how it connects to the peeping tom situation as well. The guy was wanking watching u while u were in public just like the fb photos are public.. the only difference is this time the guy is doing it in the privacy of his own home.. Same difference when u think about it..and if u think u are any better than that think again. Also the photoshopping and xraying someones photos IS just as bad if not worse. I am utterly disgusted on a certain level because i may b 18 but i have photos of my 12yr old sister on fb not sexual in nature but in a bathing suit (relatives and like to see fam pictures) It makes me sick to think of the possibility that some guy that was a mutual friend would 'wank' to my underaged sister.... Going through my facebook and deleting now....

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  69. I need some advice. So the facts are:

    I am in a 2 year relationship with my gf, and without a doubt, i really do love her more than i would love any other girl ( I have given it a LOT of ).
    We are both very busy in the week; little or no private time - only weekends.
    She suffers from depression.
    We have a more than healthy sexual relationship.

    I really struggle to not masturbate to attractive girls' photos I know or do talk to; its SO much more satisfying than porn.

    I do not have ANY need of doing the above when i'm with her; be it merely in physical contact with her (hugging etc); it actually makes me feel like shit then if i think about it.

    So my questions are:

    Am I doing this merely because of natural lust etc or because of unknown problems in our relationship? In other words can I be truly happy with her AND still want to masturbate to the above mentioned?
    What does it mean in terms of my feelings towards her?
    Will I be able to have a normal ( functioning ) relationship, if taken into account that I will always desire other women; seeing that " men are hardwired to want sex with a variety of partners "?
    What am I to do when the opportunity strikes that i can have a night with one of the girls i desire so badly ( almost as an addict desires their addiction ), and i cant resist? I really would not like to cheat, as it is a feeling that i do not want to experience again ( being cheated on by this very girl ), and i do not wish for her to experience that feeling, as she ^ suffers from depression and a very low self esteem; contradictory to me.

    Thank you in advance for the help and advice.

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  70. 'Anonymous' above, it's basic instinct for males to "spread their seed". That is, to copulate/mate with/get it on with as many prime females as possible to have many offspring. The basic instinct of females is to get with the alpha male and stick with them and have their offspring. This is why men cheat a bit more often than woman and are more upfront socially with sexuality.

    As for fapping to other girls and finding them attractive, that's normal. Males' brains want you to shag all of them because they are good candidates for baring children. Nature is telling you to sleep around, but the society you're in has developed a conflicting belief that monogamy is the norm. It's physical vs emotional.

    Being in love and/or a relationship isn't about finding the most physically attractive person, it's about personality and how you work together, looks actually come second.

    In short: It's normal, all guys do it, and many girls know it.

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  71. I am extremely offended by this article. You being offended by this baffles me, are you telling me that you never realised that there are people who masturbate, to just the thought of you? What is the difference with pictures? Desperate? What, pornography is desperate too? Visual stimulus will assist a male in achieving orgasm, this isn't rocket science. If you think it is sad, I think you are sad. Truly, you have done your sex a disservice by showing such extreme ignorance of basic biology and psychology.

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  72. Surely it can be argued that it's great that guys are finding 'Facebook girls' attractive rather than porn (or at least moreso). I would figure that it's great that they find regular looking women attractive. Would anyone rather they fantasise about the plastic surgery pornstar with big lips, big tits and fake orgasms?

    As for innocent pictures, the intention may be innocent (though let's not give some girls too much benefit of the doubt), but if a girl is pretty than a girl is pretty, and they don't have to have clevage out or anything. Like a nice dress at a party, the girl in that dress is wearing that with the intention to look good and pretty, at least for themselves, so why the surprise that lo and behold guys find it attractive? Wasn't that the point?

    Bikini pics are obvious, but hey there are also pics of legs, neck, shoulders. Not a man's fault that these are all appealing.

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  73. As long as you don't physically, mentally, verbally, etc. abuse the girl, there's nothing wrong with this. It's not hurting the girl, so what's the harm? What she doesn't know won't hurt her.

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  74. @Anonymous March 22, 2012 at 3:00 AM

    I could not agree more!

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  75. For what it's worth, I'm a guy, and I think this behaviour is a bit abnormal. Quite honestly, I think it's weird and creepy too. I feel as though men who do this are probably lacking in a capacity for empathy to some degree. I'm twenty four, and I'm certain that if any of my male friends were found to be doing such things, they would be chastised and thought of as creepy within my circle of friends and by most men I know. Obviously this behaviour doesn't really hurt anyone, but what is the point? And isn't a trespass on another persons right of expectations. A woman shouldn't have to feel that any innocuous and innocent picture of herself, showing any amount of her skin, will be used as masturbatory material by her trusted male associates, co workers, fellow students and friends. It's weird. I wouldn't like to feel as though my pictures of every day activities were going to be judged and used for self gratification by someone I trust and know. It's an abuse of trust. And saving the pictures is downright freaky. To the anonymous who said he saves pictures of his girlfriend's friends from their facebook profiles, what the hell is wrong with you? Get a life. You'll ruin that poor girls self esteem. Just use porn or have sex with your girlfriend like a normal person. To the rest of you, why not get a girlfriend or a real girl for the night?

    I have a sneaking suspicion given the content of the responses that most of the men drawn to this post were searching google for something about their own behaviour, because I guarantee that this isn't as common as these responses would indicate.

    Don't get me wrong, I'm no prude, I'm downright perverted. I have (often kinky) sex every day or more, and I masturbate frequently, I have some out there fetishes and I can creep with the best of them. But I just think anyone who does this kind of thing has some social problems. Who the hell would feel remotely good about themselves after masturbating to the saved or even unsaved photos of people they know, without their knowledge, especially when those people aren't even doing sexual things in those pictures.

    I disagree with the entire premise that it's 'a natural thing for a man to do'. Why is it? Who says masturbating to non sexualised pictures of your friends is natural? Did you just decide this? Where's your evidence? Perhaps you think all men are attracted to mothers breast feeding their babies, or something else which doesn't connote sexual activity. Where does the line end? Maybe you'll masturbate while wrapping your female friend's underwear around your hand while she's out of the house? After all, that's a victimless crime too right? It doesn't hurt anyone. Why not get in her bed and just masturbate all over it? Same thing. It isn't a 'natural thing for a man to do', It's a natural thing for a certain kind of man to do. A lonely one who has no shame and doesn't care about respecting others.

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