I recently caught up with a girlfriend who is in marketing and has been hanging out with a guy who is a freelance writer. They spend a ton of time together exploring the city, taking in shows and even wound up at SXSW together because her company had extra tickets. She told me she wanted to corner him one night over drinks and lay it on the line. In an attempt to save her from herself I told her I thought he must be gay if they weren't hooking up by now although I didn't really believe it. I knew their situation was a bizarre strain of urban dating where one person leads on the other in exchange for entry into concerts/sports/drug induced festivals and other social networking opportunites.
The truth is in 2010 guys can be friends with girls without wanting to sleep with them. It’s also possible to sleep with someone and not want to date them and even be dating and not know it. Anything is possible—that is except for figuring out what the h*ll is going on.