Saturday, January 23, 2010

A Little Bit RomanTECH: Q&A with Hannah Seligson

I had the pleasure of chatting with Hannah Seligson, author of A Little Bit Married: How to know when it’s time to walk down the aisle or out the door, which just hit shelves January 15th. Below is our Q&A, an explanation of the title and the reason why she won't be friends with her boyfriend on Facebook...

1. What does “A Little Bit Married” mean?"
After college my boyfriend broke up with me and it felt more like a divorce than a break up. Our lives were so intertwined, between family relationships and all the time we spent together it felt like way more than just a relationship, we were "a little bit married." Then I started looking around at my twenty something friends and realized that there was a trend I was starting to see: the unmarried long-term relationship. Right now in the U.S. 23 million adults are in long term unmarried relationships and 12 million unmarried couples live together.

2. So it's a handbook for people living in sin :)?
Being A Little Bit Married is a rite of passage for people today not a substitute for marriage. The book is a guide for navigating this space and knowing when it’s time to walk down the aisle or out the door.

3. How do you think technology has changed dating and relationships?
My grandparents went on five dates before they were married, now five dates is the time when you become Facebook friends. Clearly, a lot has changed. Today, the period before you get married tends to be much, much longer.

4. BTW, are you "a little bit married?"
I am. It's funny, even though we live together, we aren't friends on Facebook. I think it’s a little icky and voyeuristic to watch each other's newsfeeds every day. I think it can make you paranoid, you know like if you see that your significant other has their hand on someone else's shoulder. In short, so much can be misinterpreted.

5. So are you anti-techromance?
No, not at all! One of my good friends met a guy on Facebook and I think they'll probably wind up getting married.

6. What is your best advice for singles looking for a relationship today?
The speed of technology makes things move so fast but relationships aren't so instant. Take your time and get to know each other, it’s not like we have to get married when we're 22 anymore...

Read excerpts from "A Little Bit Married" on Hannah's blog or buy it on

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